So. I'm running away from home? and need some advice?

I dropped out of junior high when I was 14 (in 8th grade). I just turned 17 last month. My life isn't going anywhere and I need to get out of here. I've been on and off depression episodes since I was 10. And have finally decided to do something for myself to change that; for better of for worst. I don't have a dad, he left when I was 7. My mom is a good person but a sh-tty mother. All she cares about is her cats and her business. Kids come last. When she pulled me out of school she said she would get me a tutor and home school me. But she has made no effort to start homeschooling me, or put me back in school. I don't think she cares at all. She is very evasive on the subject. If I confront her, we end up fighting and she repeats the same story over and over; how I never help her clean the house, and how her business if failing and her employees steal from her. etc etc. You guys have no idea how difficult she is to deal with. I'm starting to think she actually doesn't want be me move out. Maybe its because she's not married and is scared to be left alone because I'm the only one she has. I love her, but I'm not going to let her ruin my life.



My older sister fell behind in school too. But she did graduate a couple of years late. She struggled with depression too. Attempted suicide once. And ran away from home when she was 16 to go live with her boyfriend at his parent's house who lived 4 hours away in another city. Which was the best thing she had ever did because she is still with him and his parents are paying for her to go to college right now.



But I don't have anyone and probably wont go to college. I'll try to graduate high school, but, who knows. So here is my plan; bring backpack full of stuff. Steal some money from mom. Pocket knife just in case. Get my license. Buy a greyhound bus ticket. Try to get a bank account and save up as much extra money as I can to get my own place. Live on the streets, or with someone if I can for a year until I'm 18 and get my own place. Once I have my own place, try to get back in school. There are programs you can go to that will allow you to graduate school in 2 years instead of 4 years. Do that, graduate when I'm 20. And pray to fcking God I'll have a chance to get into college when I'm 21.



Money; my mom is an eye doctor who owns her own business. I already have a head start because I know how to make glasses. So I plan on working as a lab tech in an optometrist office. It pays about 12$ an hour. Which is not bad. But I acknowledge the fact I might have to become a prostitute, especially in the first few months.



I have some questions though. Can you guys help me out?



How do you get a drivers license? Can you go by yourself without a parent?

Where would be the best place/ city to run away to? (I live in texas, but it doesn't have to be in texas)

Do I bring my birth certificate with me? To get a job?

How old do you have to be to open up your own back account?

What is the legal age to run away? Since im 17, will the cops be able to drag me back?

Anything that I haven't thought of?So. I'm running away from home? and need some advice?
It may not seem like it but I bet there are some other options. You say you left school at 14, have you considered taking a ged? You might have to take some evening classes, but it might be a faster way for you. Have you considered a start in the military? I don't mean running off to join the Army and go to Afghanistan, but maybe the Navy or Air Force for 4 years to get yourself together and find a means to go to college. Is there a friend you could stay with for awhile, maybe until you can get a ged and turn 18? After that you could pursue college, maybe work part-time and start out at a community college. I think your idea to work as a lab tech is a good one! that would probably be a great part-time job.



I'm not sure about the laws for a 17yo in texas. I think if you're 18 it will be much easier to do a lot of things. You shouldn't consider working as a prostitute, under any circumstances. That will only add trouble and come back to haunt you someday.. there are other workable options.



I wish I knew more about you so I could suggest some more realistic options. Many of us had rough beginnings and what's good to hear about you is that you want to better yourself. There are right ways and wrong ways to do that, I hope you'll think things through carefully and do it the right way.

Good luck!
Glad to hear it. Keep us updated, we'd like to hear how things work out. Good luck!

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So. I'm running away from home? and need some advice?
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Going nuts or what? You are just 17. I am sure that your life will ruined if you quit the home now. Be with your mom until you get at least 19. Everything else is up to you.So. I'm running away from home? and need some advice?
In no way is this a good plan.

Trading a warm home, food, and flawed Mother for prostitution, homelessness and an extremely uncertain, perhaps tragic future?? Sorry...but what are you thinking??

You are not thinking. You are probably frustrated, angry and just reacting. You need a clear plan and not something that is not thought through.



Get yourself back into school. Go to the school and talk to them. Get an education. Get a part time job. Being in school will give you access to advice, and opportunity. Unpack the backpack and get over to the school. Talk to them about your problems.



This is not the path for you.

You need to pull back. Control the impulse to run. Get some help and advice. Walk out the front door and go to the school Talk to the school about your problems, they can help and direct you to the assistance that you need. Sometimes you have to do it yourself. There is something between putting yourself in a dangerous situation and doing nothing to change it .....Do it now!
ok so no affence but i didnt read all of that detail, but i personaly dont think you should run away i run away from my house when i was 14 and it wasnt good i finally went back home again but seriously i hate my mother now i cant wait until i move out with my bf and everything but as much i hate my mum i do need her there and i will always need her just like your always going to need your mum so think carefully before you act!
Your running away from home because your mum nags you a lot??



Seriously, what you are describing is exactly what most normal mothers are like...



I was scared for my life when I was living at home with my mum, I ran away several times when I was around 15-16 but I always came back because I know that I get a roof over my head and enough food to survive here. It's a good deal.



You don't realise how much you will regret it if you leave. a life of prostitution is not where anyone with a choice wants to be.