What do you think of my Husband's actions?

This evening, I made a delicious dinner for my husband and I. We normally watch the programs he likes and I suggested we can watch sitcom together. We only have one t.v in the house, so the programs we usually watch is because he chooses them. I normally don't like his taste in shows, but i sit in the living room to keep him company. I didn't feel like watching an episode of the first 48 hrs and that's when i suggested a comedy show. We ate and when we finished, the sitcom came on t.v. he tells me, "oh, i'm going to call my friend." I felt bad because this is the time we get to relax. I spent an hour cooking and I really wanted to spend some time with him. He has been talking to his friend for nearly 2 hours. the other day, I put on a comedy movie and he kept criticizing my movie and decided to go upstairs and arrange his office. the night before, I ended up watching one of his dumb movies, but i didn't say anything to him. i sat through his movie and kept him company.



i don't think he realizes it.. he playfully called me lazy today because i switched from full-time to part-time. i'm off tomorrow and he has to run to the office. (he normally works from home and wakes up at 10 am.) i wake up at 5 each morning to go to work.



do you think i'm overreacting? pls be honest.. thank you..What do you think of my Husband's actions?
He of course knows neither of you enjoy watching the same TV shows. How I know the feeling as we have the same exact problem. However, I have a smaller TV %26amp; when I get to the point of about screaming I go turn on my TV %26amp; find something I enjoy. Ask him if you could possibly get another TV which would also solve your problem. Put it close enuf so you could still see one another or talk if you want, but that would solve your problem...good luck...:)
Ok, I will be honest. Your husband is selfish. He was probably that kid when you were small, that horded all the toys...he doesn't know how to share. You need to have a nice, long, calm chat with hubby and bring this to his attention. Oh...his playful "lazy" was dead-on serious. He's immature. Sorry.What do you think of my Husband's actions?
Talk to him about it, but he may decide that he doesn't want to watch tv that doesn't interest him and you don't want to do the same thing, but you do! This is what causes your resentment. You should both find something that you both agree on.
There is a love connection problem going on here. Somehow you both have lost the desire to be friends and find out what he is feeling and going through in his life right now. Maybe he would agree to go to marriage counseling.What do you think of my Husband's actions?
Your not overreacting, it sound like your husband is pouting because he is not getting his way. It sound like your doing all the compromising, stand up for yourself!
he's spoiled rotten and you caused it

what wife works all day then cooks then watches only what he wants??

he doesn't care about you keeping him company
Your over reacting. Get a 2nd tv.
No you are not overreacting but he doesn't know how you are thinking. He doesn't know you are sacrificing each time to watch shows you do not like, but do it anyway to keep him company.



I know you think you should be letting him have his way to be nice, but honestly if you want a good marriage, you need to Negotiate and Communicate, yes, even on the Little things, so that when the big things DO come around, the two of you will know how to talk.



As for the person who suggested a second TV, I don't think they realize you want your husband's company...
No you're not. I think you have cause to be concerned.



It isn't a good sign when your spouse criticizes things like you've mentioned. I know I would be concerned.



It sounds like he's losing interest in the things that he once enjoyed. I see that as a warning sign, You two need to find time to talk to each other. I've said this a million times and I'll say it again for you. Marriage is made up of three things in my opinion. TLC. Trust, Love, Communication.

Those things serve as the foundation for everything else. But you need to have all three in order for a marriage to be successful. For both spouses, Please try and talk, not TO him. WITH him.



Good luck!
Heres what I want you picture, its the 1940's you have just got done cooking dinner and you call your husband to the meal. You both sit in the dining room and he has been working all day and all he can think about is spending time with you. He appreciates the meal and says "it looks delicious dear". You both smile at each other and start eating and talking to ONE ANOTHER. No t.v. stealing your attention but receiving undivided attention from your husband. Of course they had tv shows but family time was for FAMILY. It was a time of bonding and having alone time with each other. That relational building is crucial - you could have stayed single and ate meals in front of the tv. You got married for a reason though and those relationships have to be strong.

You need to feel affection, appreciation, that he is grateful for you, that he respects you and he acknowledges your role in the home. He needs to feel like he is MORE then just a provider, give thanks to him, affectionate with him, make him never want to leave home. A should be able to have the worst day and be a failure but when he comes home to you he should know he is a HERO.

You are not over reacting - you are catching a HUGE problem while it is small, soon it will grow. I see it all the time. Take some time to read all the horrible post on here in marriage section. It all starts with lack of quality time. Their is selfishness on his part here by not caring about your tv choices enough just to sit through them. As a guy he does not get you dont like his movie and sit their just to be WITH HIM, he doesn't like you movie n he is off. That is selfish and he needs to know that. His ability to sacrifice for you is already starting to dwindle and that is what a marriage is built on SACRIFICE. In any aspect it means it HURTS, its not the funnest thing, it COSTS something.